question!!(:
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2. Did every parent at our church try to "change" someone? (evangelism[i think..])
3. How do parents talk to our God in Heaven?
4. Did any of the parents try to seek help from one another?
5. Do parents gossip?
i was thinking...i don't mean to offend anyone at all.
But lets just say something bad went on at our church, gossiping, rumors, and stories that reveal truth? or lies?
Let's just say i had a problem with my mom(which i don't, this is only an example).
She and I didn't get along well and she annoyed me and i annoyed her.
One day I tell Nahyun unni saying all these bad things about my mom.
BUT! Is this the right thing?
what i learned from my teacher Mrs. Yang, is that we should go to that person and try to discuss this.
NOT like this:
me: "mom, you annoy me don't talk to me"
mom: " o.o'' well i didn't want to talk to you anyways!"
more like this:
me: "mom this is my problem and i was hoping you could help me."
mom: "yes?"
me: "well you know how you and me fight a lot? Can you help me to fix this?"
OKAY. IM SORRY. but im afraid these aren't the exact words i would say, but my point is don't just try to feel better by putting that one person down. Try to help yourself by helping them to fix your guy's problem TOGETHER
another thing that i had in mind since i was in 5th or 6th grade
it's called a truth circle
everyone sits in a circle
but before anyone starts to talk, everyone should promise that they wouldn't get offended by what they are going to hear, but accept it and try to improve what other people think you are lacking in or what they wish you to stop
then one person starts
EXAMPLE:
Heidi starts and I'm next to her and she talks to me.
nobody else except her is talking and as she talks to me i should listen carefully
Heidi: stacy I wish you could stop doing this, this, and that. i THINK, then we would have a closer relationship
me: -nods- okay heidi i will try my best!
And she continues around the circle, then i would do the person next to me and then i would go around.
HOPEFULLY, everyone would accept this and try their bests.
i really wanted to try this with the children and preteen (including Bowas and Nahyun unni)
PLEASE do no get offended by what i have said or done.
I'm not saying that parents should stop gossiping and stuff, no, i'm just giving ideas to the parents of how we can have a better relationship with each other! And I'm not trying to intrude on the parents!I'm sorry if any of the parents think i'm being rude, selfish, childish, and etc.
I would like it if someone tried the truth circle.
If this bothered you, please let me know on Sunday so i can help you or erase this post.
with lots of love, Stacy Ju(:
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Stacy, I think it's a great idea.
Sitting around in a circle and discussing different issues about relationship with one another is always a healthy thing to do. Like you said, just be careful not to offend anyone by carefully choosing the words.
I wish I could answer all your questions but perhaps Pastor Barnabas or Pastor Abraham will be the right persons to ask. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, though.
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These are wonderful and important questions.
That is right. There are three pastors in our church who would give you the right answers.
But I could also be a help if you want to and I prefer to talk to you in person for some time.
Thank you very much sharing your thoughts which I think very valuable.
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Dear Stacy,
Your writing today is so outstanding; your writing made my day.
You are dealing with, in my opinion, the most important issue we as individual and congregation have to deal with. In fact, I would even say this is not only most important issue but also the most common issue.
I agree with Mrs. Yang that if we have an issue to complain or blame then we should go directly to that person and try to discuss the issue. Also, “a truth circle” seems simple yet amazingly excellent idea. I wish we had done that before and I feel we have to try this soon or later.
It reminds me of Paul saying: SPEAK TRUTH EACH ONE of you WITH HIS NEIGHBOR, for we are members of one another. (Ephesians 4:25) Paul also indicates that speaking the truth in love is due process to incur spiritual growth.
On the other hand, when we try one of both as you mentioned, there are some risks involved. When we don’t have trust and commitment as member of a body – not recognizing we are members of one another, we tend to feel easily offended, often misunderstanding the other party’s intention.
I would like to talk about this more with you. God bless you.